Navigating the "Holiday" Season: A Brief Mental Health Perspective Note From Kaley
- Kaley Berlin
- Dec 13, 2023
- 3 min read
An email/blog post from my website:
"Caring for myself is not self-indulgence, it is self-preservation, and that is an act of political warfare." - Audre Lorde
As we are already in the "holiday" season, it's important to acknowledge that this time of year can bring a mix of emotions. For some, it's seen as a time of joy, celebration, and togetherness, while for others, it can be a period of stress, anxiety, grief and even hopelessness. I want to assure you that it's okay to feel whatever you're feeling. Your emotions are valid, and it's crucial to take care of your mental health during this time.
Society does a hell of a job showing us images of well-resourced,stress-free-appearing families with matching pajamas and well behaved dogs everywhere we look! The pressure to appear happy, to buy things, to attend events, and to show up for others can be overwhelming. And where is the sun? For many, this time of year brings up feelings of grief and loss of both loved ones and what our lives may have previously looked like - or what we wished they looked like. It can bring up major concerns about finances, and hopes for something more inspiring or fulfilling in life. Add to this the challenges of the ongoing pandemic, global atrocities, etc., and it's no wonder that many of us may feel more stressed than festive.
Here are some strategies to help you navigate the season with your mental health in mind:
1. Set Realistic Expectations: It's important to focus on what makes you feel comfortable and experience moments of joy. Remember, it's your time/season, and you get to decide what that looks like. This may involve setting clear boundaries with loved ones who have expectations of your time or resources. We can work on that in our sessions.
2. Practice Self-Compassion: Amid the hustle and bustle, don't forget to take care of yourself. This could mean setting aside time for relaxation, engaging in activities you enjoy, or simply taking a moment to breathe and acknowledge where you feel emotions in your body and be compassionate with where you are at. Caring for yourself is not selfish; it's necessary and even revolutionary. Audre Lorde said so.
3. Stay Connected: If you're feeling isolated or lonely, reach out to someone you trust. If you're unable to be with loved ones physically, consider virtual gatherings, texts, emails or phone calls. Staying connected with yourself can look like journaling or taking a walk in nature to clear your head.
As we navigate this holiday season, let's remember to be kind to OURSELVES. Let's remember that it's okay to ask for help, and it's okay to prioritize taking care of our mental health. After all, the best gift we can give ourselves and our loved ones is the gift of modeling our well-being.
A few housekeeping notes: please let me know via text or email if you will be away during our usually scheduled session times. I want to try and get it right this year! Also, if you'd feel so inclined, and more importantly, if you feel COMFORTABLE: I am hoping to have some more recent reviews on Google and Yelp. This may mean these platforms use your name, which is why I only want review-support if you feel completely comfortable with that. Your privacy is very important to me.
Wishing you a peaceful and mentally/emotionally/physically calm few weeks ahead.
Warmly,
Kaley
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